pin it button Fit Mom Diet Team Dish on Healthy Eating

 

AprMag3D Fit Mom Diet Team Dish on Healthy Eating

This month Total Mommy Fitness Magazine features Kim Miller and Shannon Dougherty of FitMomDiet.com. They offer practical advice for moms about creating healthy habits and mindful eating.

The issue is packed full of incredible expert contributors. Each of them present unique approaches to diet and cooking. They are a wealth of knowledge and talented writers.

There is no one size fits all approach to eating or feeding your family. Take what works for you, and leave the rest, but please read with an open mind and consider all options.

You will find plenty of helpful tips that you can implement in your daily routine to improve your diet, save you money, and get your family eating healthier, too.

You can download Total Mommy Fitness Magazine FREE in iTunes for iPhone and iPad, and in PDF format for all other devices.

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pin it button Please stop! I beg of you.

I think my tolerance for body critiquing has finally reached its breaking point. Seriously. I don’t think I can take anymore. Whether you are fit or fat or round or stick thin, it is none of my business. Just as my size is no one else’s.

My weight fluctuates like most women and it seems to be an incessant topic of conversation. There is no escape and there is no winning. A couple years ago I dropped down to 100 lbs. I was in a deep depression suffering from daily unbearable migraines toward the end of my marriage, which caused constant nausea and made it hard to eat. Some asked what I was doing because I “looked great,” while others told me I needed to eat because I looked “sick,” “gaunt” and “too skinny,” as if I wasn’t well aware of my current struggle. I’m happy to say that I have come back from that period. I feel healthier and stronger than ever, and now that seems to be a new topic of discussion from friends, clients, and strangers alike.

Typically, I just brush it off because I realize that as a personal trainer my body is part of my business. It comes with the territory. Like celebrities living in Hollywood who get annoyed by the paparazzi – it’s kind of a package deal.

Just the other day I was triggered like I haven’t been in a very long time. I went to talk to a financial advisor to come up with a plan moving forward with my business and one of her first comments before she even shook my hand or introduced herself was about my body. She said something about how fit I was, and I said thank you and took it as a compliment. We proceeded to chat for a couple minutes about why I was there and then she joked about wearing sweats that day just for me (it was actually Lululemon, and I don’t really care what she wore that day). I laughed it off and continued talking about the business at hand.

A few minutes later she said that I was really in some shape. I said, “thanks, though its kind of part of the job description as a personal trainer,” trying to make light of her awkward repeated comments about my body. I tried to hide my frustration. Then, within minutes she paused again and said that I was “so tiny.” Are you freaking kidding me lady?! I said nothing and could not wait to get out of her office.

I get that this may seem like a silly thing to be annoyed about. But, when it is a persistent theme of a conversation it’s hard not to feel objectified and on display. It felt like she was taking my being fit as an aggressive attack on her level of fitness. Though, I having been dealing with inappropriate, uncomfortable commentary about my body for a long time and know that it is something that many people deal with, at all shapes and sizes.

I don’t hold it against people because I know they usually mean no harm, and it is pervasive in our culture. Our bodies are compared, critiqued, complimented or criticized on a regular basis and most of us have been guilty of it, myself included. However, the word “tiny” was a trigger for me. I felt defensive and insecure and sad. I have worked VERY hard for a lot of years to get away from being “tiny.”

After I left I knew that I wasn’t going to hire her, but didn’t think much about the body comments. That night I drank four beers and ate several servings of pasta for dinner. I felt sick, and the next morning felt awful and disappointed in myself. That type of binging is way out of character for me though it used to be the norm when I was younger. Turns out that it doesn’t take much to regress back to feeling like the skinny child who was bullied.

skinnypic 122x300 Please stop! I beg of you.

I spent my adolescence and teens binging in an effort to gain weight. I was a popular “cool” kid until all my friends hit puberty and I was still the “skinny” “flat-chested” “butch” girl, as I was often reminded. I was 8 years old in this photo, helping with yard work in my swimsuit. It wasn’t long after that I only swam in baggy t-shirts or avoided swimming all together until my 20′s… still not a fan.

In middle school I asked the boy I liked if he wanted to go to the dance with me. He said no, and that he was surprised I had asked because thought I was a lesbian. In 9th grade I vividly remember hanging out with a group in the school courtyard and the boy I had a crush on proclaimed in front of everyone, “ you would be mad hot if you weren’t so anorexically-skinny.” Had I been more witty back then I probably would have told him that he’d be “mad hot” if he didn’t have such bad grammar. Instead, I sat on the picnic bench stunned and embarrassed with those words permanently seared in my head.

My sophomore year I began strength training with heavy weights in an effort to add bulk, since the years of eating thousands of calories each day had not been working. It would be years before I was able to put on more than a few pounds and have any sort of feminine curves.

I could give countless examples of being harassed about my size, like when a man I had never met approached me in the free-weight area of 24 Fitness and told me that my body looked good, but I needed to do more squats because my butt was droopy. Or, when another man told me I had the body of a 12-year old boy. Or, just recently I ran into an old client who loudly observed how narrow my hips were as I poured my morning coffee in a crowded café. It goes on and on.

I am by no means looking for sympathy. Simply trying to explain that bullying happens at all sizes, and outward confidence does not mean that there are not deep-rooted insecurities. Body commentary is pervasive in our conversations — It begins when we’re young and is a tough habit to break. But, I would like to challenge us all to do our part to break this destructive habit.

My “fit” body is simply a result of trying to undo years of bullying. So, I beg of you, if you see me please don’t comment on it. I will do my best to practice what I preach and say nothing more than “it’s great to see you.”

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pin it button A Conversation with No Excuse Mom Maria Kang

 

MarchCover3D A Conversation with No Excuse Mom Maria KangThis month Total Mommy Fitness Magazine tackles the very serious topics of body image, shaming, comparison and acceptance.

There is mild nudity from a brave woman battling cancer, there is profanity from writers who feel passionate about the issues they are discussing, and there are adult topics that may evoke a strong reaction.

Warning: This is NOT a kid-friendly issue.

That said, I could not be prouder to share this important information with you, and I am incredibly honored to have such amazing contributors.

Maria Kang has been the center of a recent controversy which has helped bring the issues of fat- and fit-shaming into the spotlight. Whether you agree or disagree with her position, I think that we can all agree that this is an important conversation to be had.

I hope that after reading this month’s issue you have a better understanding and possibly more empathy for all sides of this multifaceted topic. Body shaming and the way women are viewed and treated — not just by the media, or the opposite sex, but by each other as well — is a complex problem without a simple solution or explanation.

You can download Total Mommy Fitness Magazine FREE in iTunes for iPhone and iPad, and in PDF format for all other devices.

Please share this issue and add your thoughts in the comment section below or on Facebook and Twitter to keep the conversation going.

Thanks!
Tatum

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pin it button CarlieStylez Shares Fitness Tips for Moms

In the February issue of Total Mommy Fitness Magazine you will learn about how to create a workout routine for you and your children to do together.

Media personality, single mom, and fitness enthusiast, CarlieStylez and her sweet son, Cooper, teach you how to exercise together from home in a cute and informative workout video. Carlie also opens up about her past and shares advice on being healthy.

You will read expert tips on how to put yourself first, be your best self and a better mom, plus much more!

Download Total Mommy Fitness Magazine FREE in iTunes for iPhone and iPad, and in PDF format for all other devices.

TMF Feb smartphone CarlieStylez Shares Fitness Tips for Moms

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My Night with Glennon and Tesla

January 26, 2014

Yesterday I was working from Starbucks when I received a Twitter message from Glennon Doyle Melton, in response to a Tweet I sent her a couple days before wishing her a good trip to Austin. She asked if I was going to MomCom (the conference she’d be speaking at that evening). I said that I was […]

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How to Lose Weight After Pregnancy

January 20, 2014

While dealing with the infant is bound to take a toll on your health, you will also find yourself grappling with the worries of how to lose the postpartum weight. This appears to be a huge challenge, especially since you are aware that you can neither diet nor exercise immediately after giving birth. When you […]

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Attn: Austin Moms — Free Spot at Workshop this Weekend!

January 8, 2014

Carrie Contey’s “Your Best Year Yet” workshop is taking place this Saturday and Sunday in Austin! The workshop is a six-hour, kid-free day that encourages individuals to reflect on the past year, identify existing limitations and gain clarity on what they truly want for themselves in 2014. Carrie helps participants create a plan to successfully achieve their new goals for […]

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Fitness Tips from Figure Champion Monica Brant

January 1, 2014

Learn how make 2014 your healthiest year yet with the latest issue of Total Mommy Fitness Magazine. Just click the image to sign up for your free copy! In this issue you will learn to set SMART goals, plus receive motivation and inspiration! I’m so excited to feature the incredible Monica Brant, current world champion figure […]

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Merry Christmas and Thanks!

December 25, 2013

Merry Christmas friends! I hope you are enjoying the holiday. This year I’m taking a break from the festivities to be a bit introspective, get centered, prepare and set goals for the new year. I want to take a minute and say thanks for following Total Mommy Fitness and for your support both personally and […]

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Glennon Doyle Melton, Founder of Momastery.com, Featured in Total Mommy Fitness Magazine

December 12, 2013

Download the latest issue of Total Mommy Fitness Magazine featuring Glennon Doyle Melton of Momastery.com! Available now FREE on iTunes for iPhone or iPad. And, it is also available in PDF format for all other devices!! Just click the iPad below to sign up

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